My family moved to New Hampshire when I was eight. I remember seeing our new house for the first time with my brother and sister, thinking we would get lost. It had four bedrooms, three bathrooms, a living room, a family room, a three season room, and a deck! One of the bathrooms was actually inside my parents bedroom! Coming from a tiny brick home, this big empty house What do you do with a living room when you have a family room?
After replacing the 1970s shag carpet with a beautiful wood floor, my mom abandoned the living room for 25 years. Every year she’d talk about wanting to do something with room...furniture, lights... But she didn’t know where to start. In the time that this room sat unused, my mom could have made and corrected a thousand mistakes. I imagine a lot of us can become paralyzed by indecision.
When we don’t know where to begin, sometimes we simply don’t. And the longer we wait, the more pressure we feel to create something perfect...to get it right the first time. Once she got her project underway, my mom created a beautiful space. It took a lot of strength to silence her inner perfectionist. I’m sure the expiring gift certificate my dad helped to motivate her as well.
I try to remember that my home is meant to be comfortable and lived in. I think I’ve become more willing to make mistakes in my life and in my home, because the longer I wait to make changes, the longer I’m living in a space I don’t love. So what’s the secret? How do we start when we don’t know where to start? Get inspired! Start with a fabric, a painting--anything that feels the way you want your room to feel. Start somewhere. Each mistake is bringing you one step closer to your favorite room.